Validated.. Validation... Its A Dangerous Thing!

This blog took shape after having numerous conversations with several of people that are in my inner circle.... I had to write about this because the theme of validation just kept reoccurring in many situations... As humans its normal that we seek validation from family, friends and co-workers... often its this same validation that tears us down and takes us away from who we are.. what we feel.. how we function..... its a very dangerous thing.. we often ask people their opinion of things we have prayed about.. things we already have the answer to.... its human nature to seek a second opinion but its important that we don't place others' signature before Gods..... It's also we examine the type of validation we are seeking because lots of time someone else's validation is poison...

This leads to my next point.... Seeking Attention + Appeasement + Validation = Disaster. How many times have we seen people fall because they were seeking the attention and validation of others.. then because of some selfish reason the person u are seeking validation from appeases you.. then u receive the validation and act on it... then comes the disaster..... I am so tired of people seeking validation... u dont need to be validated.. as long as in your heart you know its the right thing to do, you've prayed about it.... the Bible says.. Seek you the counsel of our Lord..

Now there is a difference between validation and support... Support comes whether someone agrees with your position or not.... validation comes in form of opinion where the person would have acted in the same position as you or agree with your actions.. I can support you without validating your foolish behavior.. All I am asking you to do is to look at who you are seeking validation from because some validation is poison... Watch out for those appeasers that shoot arrows of appeasement to keep you quiet and out of their hair... They will surely be your downfall...

I know this blog rambles but these are just come of the thoughts that ran across my mind after having various conversations...

Be Easy...

Be Careful... Not Worthy....

Everyday I sit and reflect on things that happened the day before... wondering what I could have done differently.... or what I did well.. who helped me in what capacity... I also reflect on conversations I have with different people and how they affect me... Often times we do not know how much conversations with others affect our daily lives.... Its funny because everyone is not meant to hear or see everything... Which brings me to the reason I am writing this blog....

As humans we share our problems and our joyous occasions with people we consider to be friends or associates.... Us being oblivious to other people's hatred or jealousy do so with reckless disregard... I mean we cant help to vent our frustrations.. or to share our joy.. in this we must be careful.... See not everyone is going to be on your side.. that includes family, friends, co-workers, associates.. While you are praying and asking for your blessings they deliberately try to sabotage you... They might try to expose your weakness... Or offer advice they know is adverse to how the situation should be handled.. Some things are just not meant to be discussed with SOME PEOPLE... Ive had to learn this.... some people are just bitter people.. will always be... In that know who is worthy to bask in your glory.. and who's mature enough to help you with your problems... Those who are unworthy should be treated as such... Everyone is not able to handle your life and its story...

Be Careful of the sheep in wolves' clothing.. They are no good and they will bring harm to you.. its in your best identify them and make sure u dont place them in the pasture with the good grazing sheep for they will destroy your flock..

Word to the Wise: Be Careful whom you put on a pedestal for the will be the first to look down on you.

Being At Peace...

A very close friend of mine and I were having a conversation and we were discussing how things are starting to break for us... how we are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.. It is so funny because we grand plans on how things would work out, yet they didn't.. Her and I wondered what was hindering us from receiving what the Lord had promised us... We were MISSING INNER PEACE... to be at peace with things beyond our control.... having inner peace that allows you to sleep better.. missing inner peace that turns your smirk to a smile... the inner peace that allows you to walk with your head up and chest out.. the inner peace that allows you to accept what God allows.. finally, the inner peace that allows you to take those necessary steps toward your destiny....

Walking into your destiny requires inner peace.. whatever the situation... whatever the issue ADDRESS IT and become at peace with it.... Tackling those issues has allowed me to move forward and pursue my dreams without any inhibitions... Thank God for peace that passes all understanding.. So at night ask for peace... Peace to mend those broken pieces.. to begin placing your vases of dreams back in the display case... Peace... Peace.. As they say in the Catholic Church.. "Peace Be With You." I hope that if you don't have that peace that you will begin working to acquire it.. only through peace will you be able walk into your destiny.... achieve your dreams.. Peace Be With You....